I am fascinated with a website www.warrenfarrell.com that carried his articles (Divorced Dad Volcano) and (Gender Divide). This is a remarkable man who sat on the Board of the National Organisation for Women (New York City). He noted that children do almost as well after divorce if : (a) the child has equal time with mom and dad; (b) parents live close enough so that the child maintains links with school, friends and activities when he stays with mom or dad; and (c) mom and dad do not bad-mouth each other. These are self evident factors that no one will argue with.

What is enlightening is that based on these factors, he observed that most moms run down the dads and try to hinder or block dad's access to the child. In contrast, he observed that most dads are quite happy to let moms visit their child. Consequently, he concludes that divorced men should be given care and control over children, not because they are the better parent, but because they are more likely to facilitate generous access to their children's mothers. One wonders whether our Family Court is aware of such dynamics within the divorced "family" when they make decisions on child custody, care and access : (see www.ngandkoh.com.sg/Jun05.pdf , www.ngandkoh.com.sg/Sep04.pdf , and www.ngandkoh.com.sg/Feb04.pdf ).

Do you agree with Warren Farrell's observation?